So, all of you know that we are trying to get pregnant and are having a hard time. It's extremely frustrating. Not only is it the most stressful thing I've ever been through...but it sucking the fun out of sex. Yeah...you heard right...sucking the fun out of sex!! I honestly never thought that would happen but, we have definitely reached that point. I know that's one of the major "rules" of trying is to keep it fun, but when you have to check everything to see if it's the "right time", how fun is that?? My poor husband feels like a tool (his words not mine) and I can't say that I blame him. I think he secretly likes it, but don't tell him I said that. haha
Not only is trying frustrating but what makes it worse...EVERYONE AROUND US IS PREGNANT!! I can seriously name at least 25 women who are pregnant. I know it always seems that way...when you want something everyone else in the world has it, but this is seriously our lives right now! I have to admit I'm a little jealous because this is something we have been trying so long to achieve (it feels that way at least). I'm really happy for those who are pregnant, don't get me wrong, but I just feel like it isn't fair. Why can't we be pregnant too?
Then...there are those people who feel sorry for us but yet want to give us advice. I mean...really?!?!?! I know they say things because they honestly don't know what else to say...or they are afraid of hurting our feelings, but, I mean really, you don't have kids and you're giving me advice on how to conceive one? Or...if they aren't giving advice...then they give "words of wisdom" so to speak. "Maybe it just isn't your time"...or (my favorite) "It will happen when it's suppose to". Ok...what time is that exactly...and can you make sure to tell my body so it will be ovulating that day??
I don't mind when people ask me how to process is going most of the time...I just hate how they respond to it. The conversation is always pretty much the same. They ask when I go back to the doctor, then they ask what will the doctor do next, and lastly they always end in "words of wisdom", their own personal conception story, or their friend's story.
Isn't funny how you never hear of anyone having PCOS or taking the same medicine that you're on until you're on it...or the medicine you will be taking?? Recently, I was talking to someone and she asked what the doctor would do next and I told her probably a sperm analysis and then he would put me on Clomid. She then preceded to WARN me about how her friend was on Clomid and became pregnant with twins!! Ok...so let's get this straight...I, right now, can't get pregnant with one and you're WARNING me I could get pregnant with two? And that's a bad thing how??? And...most of the time when they are telling you about this "friend", really isn't their personal "friend". It ends up being their BFF's cousin's uncle's sister-in-law's daughter's baby's daddy's first wife...or something crazy like that. (FYI--Clomid does increase the chance of having twins by 10% and triplets by 1%)
I'm sure you all are probably thinking something happened today or recently and it actually hasn't. haha I've had a pretty good day...just started thinking about things and how people react to them. I seriously hope I didn't step on any toes!! I really appreciate those of you who do understand where I'm coming from and who have helped me during this difficult time. I'm sure it will pass...it just isn't passing fast enough. But I guess all good things come in time (another "words of wisdom" I've been told).
Congrats to all of you who are pregnant or who have recently delivered. Never take a single second for granted!!
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Amy, I def. know how you feel. (You dont know me, but My husband and I went to school with your husband, also I took sign language classes at MECC) I was recently diag. with PCOS and am waiting for my appointment in April for more blood work and all the stuff along with it. I have been taking Metformin for some time because I am also hypoinsulimiac(something like that). It kills me because everywhere I got someone has a baby or pregnant. And every tells me, "in time, in time"...or "it will happen" it makes me want to just punch them!!! No they dont know what you are going through and no they wont understand EVER! unless they are going though the same thing as you. My husband has two brothers and they both have kids. One of his brothers has 5 kids and they dont even want them and dont take care of them and it makes me so mad that I cant have kids and here it is they dont even want them. But I hope everything works out for you and Nathan and that you will soon have some lil Cobbs running around! But I am glad that I have something to read about that someone else is going through the same thing as myself, but I can read yours and know what to expect, because I was just diagnosed. But if you ever want to talk my email is: jennifer.brown@mail.org
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